Divorce happens for a variety of reasons. When it does, two questions always seem to rise to the surface, “How deeply has this affected me?” and “How will I ever recover from it?” Both questions are critically important to answer, because answering both will bring the kind of growth and insight that is so crucial to growing through the experience of divorce. It takes great courage and humility to confront those two questions. Imagine never asking or answering them at all! Many people who go through divorce never will, and as a result, they easily fall into another relationship that is early-on postured to fail. Because their own hearts, experiences, and expectations remain unexamined, they remain blinded by their own pain, fears, and lack of trust.